Parents and teachers tend to say to us, ‘You don’t know, listen to me’. Slowly we loose our ability to know who we are. We can’t hear our own wisdom, don’t know what our natural limits are and often try to impress. Then feeling deadened we find things that make us feel alive for a minute, like loud music, violent films, or in some way hurting ourselves or others.
When a child is given the power and supported, we say, ‘you do know’! Then the real authentic person stays alive and their natural empathy, wisdom, caring and compassion grows when we foster this. I’ve seen this in tribal communities and in parents in the West who have done this. Children who are acknowledged and seen as wise beings, not little adults who don’t know anything, grow up into powerful, compassionate, passionate, kind, adults who know who they are and are connected to their source.
Let’s ask ourselves how would I have been if my parents had been able to do this for me and their parents had been able to do it for them?
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